Friday, November 15, 2019

5 Ways To Become A Happier Person - The Pursuit of Happiness

When you ask a new parent what they want their child to be when they get older, the answer is almost always, happy. It isn't for them to be an NFL player, a Doctor, or a Lawyer. But why is happiness so difficult to find nowadays? Researchers say there are many reasons and they include social media, or more so technology in general, too many choices, and comparison. I'll just more into those details later. I took a seminar on 'The Pursuit of Happiness' which taught the group ways to become a happier person. I found that the five that I will mention are probably the most important. So let's get happy!

#1 A Gratitude Journal - Eyeroll, right? Because how many times have we heard this one? However, besides it being proven to increase happiness and manifest positive experiences in life, I put it to the test and it worked! You don't need to sit down and spend 10 minutes a day writing day things that make you are grateful for. You need 3 things! That's the magic number here but you MUST be specific and it HAS to be something different everyday. For example, I am so grateful for my dogs because when I look at them they make me laugh and when I hold them they comfort me. After you write 3 very specific reasons you need to write 1 good thing that happened to you in the last 24 hours and be specific. For example, when I was walking out of Starbucks this morning while my hands full, a gentleman held the door open for me. At the end of the week go back and read what you wrote in your notebook. I guarantee you it will bring a smile to your face. Not only will you get to experience those feelings all over again but it will be a good reminder of all the positives in your life.

#2 Hand Deliver a Written Letter to Someone Close to You - Pick a person that is very special to you. It could be your mother, your teacher, or your best friend. Write them a letter and include all the reasons why you love them and are thankful for them and then HAND DELIVER it. Make sure to stick around and watch them read it as well. It will fill your heart with so much joy (and theirs too!) Many people record the person reading the letter out loud and rewatch it to bring even more happiness to them!

#3 Take a Day Off of Social Media - Social media gives our brains a shot of dopamine. Dopamine is a chemical that signals happiness in our brains and this becomes addicting. It's not the content that is giving you the dopamine its seeing something new every single time you scroll. Much like a dating website … you keep scrolling and you see new and fresh every single time. This actually in turn makes us depressed. Constantly seeing new outfits, fabulous vacations, and picture perfect relationships on social make us compare our not near perfect lives to these shots. Taking a day off every once in awhile from social media will give us a break of comparing ourselves to others. So go with your friends or family to a fun brunch, go on a hike, or read a book. Below I went with some family to Sugar Factory in NYC!

#4 Understand the Paradox of Choice - There is a book on this by Barry Schwartz. The premise of this concept is that our lives have become way more complex due to the overwhelming abundance of choice. What does this mean to me? The book gives an example of choosing a pair of jeans, a partner in life, or a career. Pick one and think about this, "Beware of choice overload: it can make you question the decisions you make before you even make them, it can set you up for unrealistically high expectations, and it can make you blame yourself for any and all failures" - Amazon This can cause a huge amount of anxiety and even depression. The book helps you limit the number of choices in have to make by using a strategic method. This can help reduce any future anxieties in the decision making process.

You can purchase this book by clicking here.

#5 Random Acts of Kindness - This one is my favorite. Did you know that this can actually benefit you almost as much or even more than the person you are helping? By doing something nice for someone and seeing that smile on their face, their gratitude, or their Thank You will give you such fulfillment. If you haven't seen my YouTube video of me doing a random act of kindness in NYC check it out below. 

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